Monday, December 5, 2011

Moving On

Have you ever had something occur in your life that struck you so hard, you felt like you would never be able to move on from it? Like the event or the memory is just so strong, you can't let it go? I think everyone has times like this in their life, and at some point, you just have to move on. But moving on can be so extremely difficult, sometimes even painful, and even more so, you wonder what you'll do once you let it go!!

There will always be parts of me that want to overthink, overanalyze or worry, whether it is over finances, my relationships, my career, my kids........

......but what good has worrying or perseverating about something ever done for anyone? I find that by letting go of negative energy and thoughts, I am weighed down so much less. Who cares what people think, really? As judgement from others is simply a part of life that none of us can truly escape, therefore worrying about what others think of you or your family is really just silly. Worrying if I am good at my job is just stupid because the overwhelmingly obvious answer is YES, I am great at my job!! My relationships, I have learned over the years, are something that I always have to work at, whether it be to make them stronger, or place boundaries for those that tend to overstep. It's like managing a garden. You have to give some plants more love and care, and others, you need to cut back or they will grow wildly and become very annoying. And as far as my kids, well, kids are kids. I've learned that while they reflect on me, they are not extensions of me. They are their own person. My greatest job for them is to be there to help them grow and mature, aiding them and guiding them when they come to bumps in the road, helping them get over hurdles in life when their personalities or faults are hindering them. They will ultimately be who they are, and I am always excited to remember that not that long ago, the thought of even having more than one child was merely a pipedream.

I guess for my New Year's Resolution, I am all about Moving On. I'm tired of worrying and weighing my brain down with the demands and opinions of others, and even the demands and opinions I hold myself. It's all about freeing yourself up, giving yourself a better outlook and realizing that your truth, your joy and your happiness are YOURS and that you shouldn't hold on to things that are negative that take away from your truth, joy or happiness.

Be Blessed!!